CAN WE JUST TAKE A MOMENT TO ADMIRE THIS CRAZY, FEISTY, INDEPENDENT GIRL OF MINE?

 SHE IS 5.

She manages to break my heart in ways I never could have imagined.

In the last few weeks, my daughter has confided thoughts & feelings she is having about her own body. To be frank, I have been shocked and devastated to hear such sad thoughts come from such an innocent and sweet child.

MY BABY.  UTTERING THINGS A 5YR OLD SHOULD NOT BE BURDENING HERSELF WITH.

Things that are simply not true.

THAT SHE IS FAT.

THAT SHE HAS CHUBBY THIGHS.

THAT SHE ISN’T PRETTY LIKE THE OTHER GIRLS AND HER HAIR ISN’T BLONDE ENOUGH.

My 5 YEAR OLD has body image and self worth issues.

I sit here crushed.

She is self conscious.

Tears are welling in my eyes as I write this. My heart is broken.

WHERE HAS SHE LEARNT THIS BEHAVIOUR?

A 5yr old doesn’t decide this on her own. These thoughts are pushed on her.

BY FRIENDS, BY OTHER CHILDREN, BY MEDIA, BY THE INTERNET, BY SOCIETY.

In our home we all speak openly and honestly about our bodies. We celebrate each wonderful and unique part of ourselves because they are each worth celebrating.

Body image, the way you look and everything in between is pushed on our children from a young age. Far younger than I ever imagined. They are told what to wear, play with, how they should look & what to think.

A world that’s so focused on portraying a ‘perfect self’. A world where celebrities and pornography are the norm and an image of a woman breastfeeding or of a real, natural body is controversial.

 WE ARE THE ANSWER. WE MUST BE THE CHANGE.

As mothers and parents it comes our responsibility to do our best in arming our children with self confidence and a strong sense of self.

When I started blogging and sharing my stories, I did it in hopes to help Mothers. Make them feel better about them self, be comfortable in their skin and let their confidence soar in their journey no matter what it be.

 NOW, I REALISE IT’S SO MUCH MORE THAN THAT.

I realise by doing this & fighting our insecurities it can change the world. We can change society by changing our views. By embracing our individual body, celebrating birth and supporting parents.

Understand that every action has a reaction. That what we are doing today is shaping the way our children grow up, what they believe in & who they will become.

I am not just embarking on this ride as a Doula, Educator & Blogger to change the views on Birth & Motherhood. I’m also doing it for my daughter, my son, my nieces and nephews. For my friends children. For the greater community. For my tribe.

I WANT TO CREATE A BETTER WORLD FOR MY CHILDREN & THEIR CHILDREN TO GROW UP IN.

WHO IS WITH ME?